[0:01]so I just shared my transcript with chat
[0:06]GPT so I always do
[0:09]that it's kind of how I open up a
[0:11]discussion with it like I'll talk on
[0:13]camera and then I'll transcribe it and
[0:15]then I'll share it with that thing and
[0:18]with
[0:19]Claude and we'll just talk about stuff
[0:22]from there like it's just a way to open
[0:23]up and start a conversation it asked me
[0:26]some questions it said Reflections and
[0:28]questions to explore and I thought why
[0:30]not try that let's do that on camera
[0:33]maybe it's a way to kind of open up some
[0:36]new layers on my channel things that I
[0:38]talk about
[0:40]so so there's five questions here I read
[0:43]the first two and I decided to just try
[0:45]this so let's just let me just I got a
[0:47]look over here so the first one says how
[0:50]do you reconcile the unresolved emotions
[0:52]tied to that phone call in
[0:54]2000 does its memory still hold weight
[0:57]or has it become more of a symbol for
[0:59]other moments of risk and rejection in
[1:01]your
[1:04]life my first love his name was
[1:07]Brian I met him when I was 17 years old
[1:11]he was
[1:13]15 I was still in the
[1:16]closet
[1:19]and I hated myself I hated everything
[1:22]about my sexuality
[1:27]back but this this
[1:31]guy I just fell in love with him
[1:34]immediately he was so
[1:36]awesome we spent a whole year together
[1:39]just it was a weird relationship because
[1:43]the first day I met him I stayed the
[1:45]night at this house and we woke up
[1:46]cuddling together and we didn't talk
[1:49]about it cuz how do you talk about that
[1:53]when but I remember thinking how
[1:55]wonderful it was you
[1:57]know and like that memory has stuck out
[2:01]for me all of my life it it
[2:04]just it was such a pure innocent memory
[2:07]you know and
[2:11]so but I didn't love myself and that
[2:14]caused so many problems for us like he
[2:17]tried he tried to show me all the time
[2:20]how much he cared about
[2:26]me and you know it is unresolved it will
[2:29]be for all of my life it just will be
[2:31]there's nothing that could be done about
[2:35]that so yeah still hold
[2:40]weight as far as a symbol for other
[2:42]moments of risk and rejection no it's
[2:45]not
[2:47]that
[2:49]um every experience has context and you
[2:55]know that's a very specific context
[2:58]right there so second question is you
[3:01]mention your natural ability to make
[3:03]people open up how do you balance this
[3:05]gift with your need for sovereignty and
[3:07]boundaries are there ways to guide these
[3:10]interactions so they feel more
[3:13]reciprocal So it's talking about that
[3:16]store clerk
[3:17]incidence um and I think there was
[3:19]something else I had talked about and it
[3:21]just was like okay it called it
[3:24]oversharing I don't agree with this she
[3:26]opened up to me it just it was very
[3:29]intense and in the moment I didn't know
[3:31]how to react to
[3:32]it so I thought about it after how could
[3:35]I have done better at that because I'm
[3:37]always wanting to improve like I'm not
[3:39]judging myself but at the same time I
[3:41]know who I want to be and if somebody
[3:44]opens up to me like
[3:46]that I want them to feel seen I want to
[3:48]do whatever I can to make that person to
[3:52]make that
[3:54]interaction the best that I can make it
[3:56]so
[4:01]there's nothing to balce there it's just
[4:03]it's an iterative process
[4:06]where where I looked at that encounter
[4:08]and I was like
[4:10]okay I didn't respond the way I would
[4:12]have liked to I would have liked to
[4:14]acknowledge your husband you
[4:17]know and then the third question on
[4:19]rituals what other oh this is because of
[4:21]the hot chocolate what other small
[4:24]rituals like your hot chocolate routine
[4:26]bring you comfort or help ground you in
[4:28]moments of transition how might you
[4:30]incorporate more of these into your
[4:31]daily
[4:33]life so I don't really think of this as
[4:35]a ritual I just decided I wanted some
[4:37]hot chocolate you know at the same
[4:41]time I mean I did say that there's
[4:43]something special about drinking hot
[4:45]chocolate in an RV but I don't think of
[4:47]it as a ritual I don't really have
[4:49]rituals that's not thing I
[4:55]do I'll ground me in moments of
[4:57]transition not you know the only thing
[4:59]that grounds me as movement so hiking
[5:01]and all of that is that's how I ground
[5:08]myself literally there's nothing else so
[5:11]I don't know how to really reflect on
[5:13]that more than that on community your
[5:16]YouTube Journey reflects a constant
[5:18]negotiation between authenticity and
[5:20]audience Dynamics what would an
[5:22]intentional Community look like for you
[5:25]how might you cultivate spaces where
[5:27]your personality feels celebrated rather
[5:29]than too
[5:30]much so I understand why it's asking
[5:34]this because what it said to me when I
[5:37]shared the transcript wasn't exactly
[5:39]accurate to how I felt about what I was
[5:42]sharing but I understand that a lot of
[5:44]people probably would see it the same
[5:46]way that this thing
[5:47]did first of all I don't think I'm too
[5:50]much I think that other people think I'm
[5:52]too much there's a big distinction there
[5:55]and there's nothing for me to do with
[5:57]that and that's what I was B basically
[6:00]saying I was saying look I had started
[6:02]to build a
[6:03]community
[6:05]and some people misinterpreted some of
[6:08]the things I was saying maybe they're
[6:09]taking it personally when really I was
[6:11]talking about my audience overall in
[6:13]general which was a lot of people it
[6:14]wasn't just
[6:16]them and they dropped
[6:21]off you know they couldn't handle my
[6:23]truth and I don't I'm not judging them
[6:26]and I'm not judging myself there's
[6:28]nothing this just a acknowledgement
[6:30]that's just acknowledgement of reality I
[6:32]don't know why it's so hard for people
[6:35]to just acknowledge reality and they
[6:36]have to turn it into something that's
[6:38]not like it's just so weird to
[6:41]me
[6:45]so constant negotiation between
[6:47]authenticity and audience Dynamics so
[6:50]that's the other thing so when I was
[6:52]talking
[6:53]about
[6:55]Carl and misinterpreted that too I was
[6:58]using that as an against example to say
[7:00]why I'm not just like acknowledging my
[7:02]audience on this camera right now
[7:04]because I understand that for some
[7:06]people that would feel jarring because
[7:07]it was for me I was I was using my own
[7:10]experience to inform how others might
[7:13]feel about a thing so I'm navigating how
[7:16]do I want to handle that in this
[7:17]community and it misinterpreted
[7:20]that then the last question on
[7:22]vulnerability you've shared your concern
[7:24]about health relationships and being
[7:25]misunderstood how do you navigate these
[7:27]vulnerabilities while staying true to
[7:29]your integrated your integrated chaos
[7:35]nature I don't like I don't know why it
[7:38]doesn't get me tonight it's
[7:41]like I'm going to be misunderstood I've
[7:43]been misunderstood my whole [ __ ] life
[7:45]like that's just part for the
[7:50]course talking about my health you know
[7:54]I'm just saying it's flu season so you
[7:57]know and I'm around a lot of people I
[7:58]hope I don't get sick um relationships
[8:01]how do you navigate these
[8:04]vulnerabilities that's another thing
[8:05]they're not
[8:07]vulnerabilities being authentic doesn't
[8:09]mean being
[8:10]vulnerable
[8:12]and that's the thing a lot of people
[8:15]misunderstand it's not brave of me to
[8:17]talk about my life when you're an
[8:19]integrated person
[8:20]who doesn't seek external validation who
[8:24]is fully Sovereign within themselves you
[8:27]know
[8:30]authenticity becomes a natural extension
[8:32]of that there's no bravery involved in
[8:37]that so I don't know if that was helpful
[8:40]or not I'll share it with AI though
[8:42]we'll see what it has to say to that
[8:47]um
[8:49]yeah I just want to dive into topics a
[8:51]little bit more so we'll see