Processing Gay Awakening and Missed Connection

rswfire is at a coastal campground with close-together sites that he finds chaotic. He's been there for several days experiencing rain and ocean access for the first time. His cat Bailey is present and interrupting. He's preparing to leave the next morning for a different campground where he'll spend two weeks. The encounter that triggered this reflection happened recently during his stay.

Energetic Signature

resolute vulnerability

Field State

tool integration

Orientation

toward emotional sovereignty

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October 27, 2024

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rswfire

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[0:01]so hello

[0:02]everybody mey would you please stop this

[0:05]cat just cannot like just leave me alone

[0:09]ever

[0:11]so I just thought I'll make a video this

[0:15]is more for my viewers than it is for

[0:18]me um I feel it's important so I'm I

[0:23]don't even know what I'm let me just try

[0:25]to say what I had on my mind

[0:28]so I'm sure some of you are probably

[0:30]wondering how things went with the

[0:34]whole gay Awakening version

[0:38]2.0 and it's actually very interesting I

[0:41]guess so I'm going to try to unpack that

[0:43]for you because there's a lesson here

[0:45]that I I hope that you will take from

[0:49]this

[0:52]so first of all I think it's important

[0:55]to note that I actually did think that

[0:57]this person was

[1:02]I mean there's no way this person is not

[1:04]special because for that person to

[1:06]attract my attention they have to be so

[1:11]that's number one okay this person is

[1:14]probably he's awesome like I

[1:17]said so that kind of

[1:22]adds a certain layer or complexity to

[1:25]this for me

[1:27]because when I realize that there might

[1:31]have been a connection there that I

[1:33]completely missed in the

[1:35]moment

[1:39]I I really didn't like the idea

[1:43]of a missed opportunity one that I

[1:46]haven't had in two decades you know so

[1:49]so that's like that's like number one

[1:52]that was that was weighing on

[1:54]me but it's important to also note that

[2:00]for me regardless of how that turned out

[2:03]the encounter itself is what's important

[2:07]not because of the person the person's

[2:09]almost

[2:11]like

[2:12]um just a catalyst for my own growth

[2:15]this experience caused all kinds of

[2:18]internal shifts for me and a lot of

[2:19]introspection for days the whole time

[2:21]I've been here in fact and it wasn't

[2:24]always comfortable a lot of it wasn't

[2:26]comfortable and it you know I kind of

[2:28]went back and forth where I was thinking

[2:30]this is exactly why I avoided this for

[2:32]two decades cuz this is not a internal

[2:35]state that I enjoy being in so so there

[2:38]was that and then there was but maybe

[2:42]you've done a lot of growing you know

[2:44]over the years maybe you

[2:47]could maybe this is something you could

[2:49]integrate into your life now and maybe

[2:52]it's worth exploring so I kind of kept

[2:53]going back and forth between these two

[2:56]things

[2:58]and um

[3:02]so it was like I had two choices I could

[3:04]either Retreat back into

[3:07]myself or I could do the absolutely

[3:10]terrifying scary as thing and see

[3:16]if this could go

[3:17]somewhere and the only way to do that is

[3:20]to go see this person and just say hi

[3:23]and just see where it goes from there

[3:26]and that terrified me that was and I and

[3:30]I would think about that it's like okay

[3:32]well any other

[3:35]situation I'd just go talk to the person

[3:37]but this somehow this is different and

[3:40]it's

[3:41]because even though you guys see me on

[3:44]camera and you see how authentic I am my

[3:48]authenticity is not vulnerability for me

[3:51]I whatever I share with

[3:53]you is not something you can use against

[3:56]me because

[3:59]it just it won't affect me like I it's

[4:03]I'm not being vulnerable I'm just being

[4:06]authentic and I was just being authentic

[4:08]when I told him he was awesome I was

[4:10]just being

[4:11]myself but this is different now I

[4:15]understand that

[4:20]my my emotions were wrapped up in this

[4:22]one

[4:25]where I felt

[4:28]vulnerable and

[4:31]going to see this

[4:34]person even though I wasn't attached to

[4:36]an outcome and I was perfectly

[4:38]comfortable with the idea of being

[4:40]rejected because what I just wanted was

[4:45]just

[4:47]to explore the possibility because there

[4:50]was

[4:51]this

[4:55]this what's the word I'm looking for

[4:57]here

[5:00]potential it felt like there was a

[5:02]potential here and I had a choice of

[5:05]either pursuing it or not but pursuing

[5:08]it that was scary so this is how my day

[5:11]went so I woke up this morning real

[5:14]early and I went I I immediately went

[5:17]hiking 6:00 in the morning actually it

[5:19]was still dark out and I just sort

[5:22]of um kind of use my intuition to guide

[5:27]me to the ocean cuz I didn't use any

[5:28]lights or they was dark out but I still

[5:31]managed to get there and I I was out

[5:34]there and it was raining and it was it

[5:35]was so pleasant I really loved this

[5:41]and because you know that's why I came

[5:43]here I was looking forward to just the

[5:46]rain and and what that experience would

[5:48]be like and I got to finally experience

[5:50]that for the first time I feel like so

[5:53]um

[5:55]anyways and I stayed out there a couple

[5:57]of hours and

[6:00]I must have I probably came back at some

[6:02]point but something kept drawing me back

[6:04]outside like I just could not be in this

[6:06]RV my

[6:07]energy my internal state was

[6:12]so

[6:17]um I'm just struggling with some of

[6:19]these words here I'm sorry

[6:22]so it was like this frantic energy in me

[6:25]like I just I I could not sit still is

[6:29]what it was I could not sit still I

[6:31]needed to be outside I get like this

[6:34]sometimes when something

[6:38]is challenging my internal state that

[6:41]seems to be what I do I get out of

[6:43]nature is what I

[6:44]do so the second time I went back out

[6:48]and all the trails are are near the gate

[6:50]house like like there's no way of

[6:54]avoiding you know and I've got all these

[6:56]thoughts going on like I don't want this

[6:58]person thinking that I'm just trying

[6:59]like you

[7:01]know like I'm legitimately going hiking

[7:04]like this is not about you but at the

[7:06]same time it is because it's

[7:10]like I'm just really trying

[7:20]to I am just I am in aninal space with

[7:23]this situation like it just it

[7:27]was something that I

[7:32]just it dominated me this weekend my

[7:36]thoughts were all focused on this like I

[7:38]just couldn't seem to let this

[7:41]go so

[7:43]anyways

[7:44]um somehow I managed to find the courage

[7:47]to walk up to that gate house not

[7:49]knowing if it was there not knowing what

[7:52]I was going to do I was just going to

[7:53]say hello and then whatever happened

[7:56]happened but he wasn't there so I just

[7:58]went hiking

[7:59]but I was very proud of myself because

[8:02]that that was vulnerability and that was

[8:06]fear

[8:08]and it took strength to do that and I

[8:11]want you to know that I did this because

[8:13]I'm trying to show you that I practice

[8:16]what I preach so

[8:20]when I really thought this through so

[8:23]like you guys watched me have fear about

[8:27]driving up that mountain

[8:30]for a whole week I had to do this and I

[8:32]did it and I just worked with my fear

[8:34]and I said so why am I treating this

[8:36]fear differently you know this is

[8:38]emotional Fe this is vulnerability

[8:40]related to my emotions so completely

[8:42]different situation but the same

[8:45]principle and I had to just tell myself

[8:49]that you know treat this like you did

[8:51]the mountain and I did I was very proud

[8:53]of

[8:54]this and he wasn't there which was a

[8:57]little disappointing and also some

[9:00]relief of course and I just you know I

[9:03]just kept going to the ocean this ocean

[9:05]just keeps keeps drawing me to

[9:08]it and then there was like a third time

[9:11]that I went outside I think that time I

[9:13]probably walked into town several miles

[9:16]in the rain and it was just a fun

[9:19]fabulous experience I had my headphones

[9:20]on and I'm just just having the best

[9:24]time my phone told me I'd walk something

[9:26]like 16,000 steps

[9:30]and on the way back it was getting later

[9:33]in the day and I was like let's just try

[9:35]again like I was like I cuz I'm leaving

[9:37]in the morning and I was like this might

[9:40]be the last opportunity just just go

[9:43]check but I was so scared like I

[9:47]just I had I had the courage to do it

[9:50]the first time and I was like I don't

[9:52]know if I can do it a second time but I

[9:54]did I went up there and he still wasn't

[9:57]there so you know bit of a bummer but I

[10:02]did it I'm so proud of myself for that

[10:04]because what I did was allowed myself to

[10:07]be vulnerable to be scared and to still

[10:11]allow myself to be open to the

[10:14]possibility of connection with another

[10:16]human

[10:19]being and that's the lesson I want you

[10:21]to take from

[10:23]this so tomorrow I'm probably going to

[10:27]bed early tonight probably soon after I

[10:30]finish recording this and it's because I

[10:34]want to get up early I have like a lot

[10:36]of this place is a bit there's some

[10:39]chaos in here like I've got to kind of

[10:41]clean things up and you know just I have

[10:44]to move move to another campground

[10:46]tomorrow so um I just want to just you

[10:49]know get all that done in the morning

[10:51]and then I don't know from there I think

[10:56]that that

[10:59]it's you know the opportunity it's a

[11:03]missed opportunity it's over it happened

[11:05]I had this one encounter that

[11:09]was something I'll probably remember for

[11:11]a long time it was pretty amazing I

[11:17]just because it opened up something in

[11:20]me this part's not about him this is

[11:22]about

[11:27]how I love

[11:30]myself grow from this

[11:35]experience and it's okay that you

[11:40]know there's like you know no real

[11:43]resolution it there it just is what it

[11:46]is you can

[11:50]find this part's harder to explain CU

[11:52]now we're getting into kind of what it

[11:54]means to be an integrated person I don't

[11:56]really know how

[11:57]to um share this

[12:01]part most

[12:03]people try to get validation oh my phone

[12:07]at 5% battery I forgot about that hold

[12:09]on most people try to get validation

[12:12]from external sources not from

[12:14]themselves you know they

[12:17]might feel some sense of um a lack of

[12:22]completion because they weren't able to

[12:25]find out definitively does this person

[12:27]like me or not

[12:29]um but you don't have to look at things

[12:32]that way you can find it from

[12:35]within all right sorry Bailey please

[12:38]Bailey don't okay

[12:40]whatever

[12:43]um so I don't know if I'm ever coming

[12:47]back here I don't really like this

[12:50]Campground the sites are very close

[12:53]together and it just doesn't it's

[12:55]there's just like this chaotic energy to

[12:58]the place like I absolutely loved being

[13:01]on the coast and experiencing that

[13:04]for you know days of me just being out

[13:07]there I really really enjoyed that part

[13:10]um there

[13:12]are there are some sites that I did like

[13:15]cuz I went around I actually that was

[13:16]another thing I did today I took my my

[13:19]um my bag of ducks out and I handed them

[13:21]out to all the different Jeeps all of

[13:23]them and I even noticed one person

[13:26]didn't keep theirs because like 10

[13:28]minutes later I was walking walk into

[13:29]the hiking trails and he drove by and

[13:31]there was no duck and I just knew that

[13:34]one wasn't keeping it but I gave them to

[13:35]all of the all of the Jeeps that was a

[13:37]fun little thing I did and then while I

[13:40]was doing that I

[13:42]was um

[13:44]just checking out which campsites were

[13:46]the best ones where I would feel the

[13:49]most comfortable and I made a note of

[13:51]those and then when I was trying to

[13:54]figure out where am I going after the

[13:56]campground I'm going to next cuz I

[13:59]thought I would come back here kind of

[14:00]cycle between the two maybe for the

[14:02]winter cuz I'm not trying to head north

[14:04]I'm trying to

[14:08]um explore Bailey stop it man

[14:13]God trying to explore the forest and all

[14:15]of

[14:17]that um but here

[14:21]so that cat just completely just wrecked

[14:24]my brain just now he never leaves me

[14:26]alone I love this cat to death but he

[14:29]has no sense of

[14:32]boundaries um and trust me he's fine

[14:34]he's just over there just being as a

[14:36]normal self

[14:38]um that's my train of

[14:42]thought oh so I was thinking I'd

[14:45]probably come back here this is also

[14:46]where the dump station is the other Park

[14:48]doesn't have one um but I couldn't find

[14:51]any for the ones that I liked like if I

[14:54]was to come back here I'd be at a site

[14:56]that I don't really want to be at and

[14:59]I don't think the fact that there is

[15:01]someone here that I might be interested

[15:04]in who may or may not have any interest

[15:07]in me you know as a reason

[15:11]to

[15:12]um like I am a sovereign person like I'm

[15:16]not trying to change myself for

[15:20]nobody

[15:22]and so I just don't know from here I

[15:26]don't know what I'm doing after these

[15:27]next two weeks for the next two weeks

[15:29]I'm going to be at a different

[15:30]Campground and I'm just going to be

[15:33]exploring the forest there you know all

[15:35]the trails everything that I can all the

[15:37]different roads and you know so that's

[15:39]what I'll be that's what I'll be

[15:40]documenting at that point and what I do

[15:42]after that I just don't know I'm just

[15:44]going to let life unfold like I always

[15:46]do there's another lesson for you

Summary

rswfire reflects on a recent encounter that triggered what he calls "gay awakening version 2.0" - his first such experience in two decades. He describes the internal shifts and discomfort this caused, oscillating between retreating and exploring the possibility of connection. Despite his fear and vulnerability around emotional situations (contrasting with his usual authenticity), he made two attempts to visit the person at a gatehouse but they weren't there. He spent the day hiking extensively in the rain, walking 16,000 steps, and distributing rubber ducks to Jeeps around the campground. **The encounter served as a catalyst for personal growth rather than being about the other person specifically.** He processed the difference between authenticity and vulnerability, noting how this situation involved his emotions in a way that felt scary. rswfire concludes by accepting the missed opportunity and preparing to move to a different campground the next day, uncertain about future plans but committed to letting life unfold naturally.

Signal Analysis

Substrate

This transmission demonstrates the architectural integration of vulnerability as a sovereign choice rather than weakness. The field is establishing that emotional exposure can be held within coherent selfhood - vulnerability as tool rather than collapse, practiced through direct action despite fear.

Dominant Language

vulnerabilityauthenticitysovereignintegrationpractice what I preachfrantic energyvalidation from within

Symbolic Elements

thresholdoceanrainmountaingatemirror

Ontological States

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sovereign
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integrating
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coherent
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transitional

Subsystems

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emotional
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somatic
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ethical
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relational

Transmission Details

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local

Video Quality

1920 × 1080 @ 30fps

Duration

15:50

Bitrate

1634 kbps

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