[0:01]so in my experience when someone
[0:03]comments about something on my channel
[0:05]that usually means there's probably
[0:07]other people who feel the same way this
[0:10]is sort of a philosophy I've had most of
[0:12]my life
[0:13]actually I think it comes from a movie
[0:15]called Summer School something about
[0:17]glasses any of you remember
[0:20]that
[0:23]um there's somebody commenting on my
[0:25]channel who is living the van van life
[0:29]they're struggling I'm sorry I don't
[0:30]know your gender I'm assuming male just
[0:33]based on the screen name I could be
[0:37]wrong the messages that I getting are
[0:41]very
[0:42]heartfelt they're not 100% accurate as
[0:45]far as who I am as a person like the
[0:48]more you watch you'll discover that I
[0:50]don't want to invalidate your
[0:52]experiences at all I think it's
[0:54]important to just mention there's a
[0:56]thing called parasocial relationships
[0:58]look that up I just think every body
[1:00]should know about this learn about
[1:02]it
[1:04]um because it I think that there's a
[1:08]helpful aspect to knowing that like even
[1:10]I in the past like on YouTube if I'm
[1:13]watching a clip I might have commented
[1:15]on it but I'm just looking at somebody's
[1:17]a snapshot of somebody's life a couple
[1:19]of minutes I don't know them and I'm
[1:21]drawing way too many conclusions from
[1:24]from just a few minutes of video I mean
[1:26]you just you're just getting a snapshot
[1:29]of a person in it
[1:31]just people are very complex they can
[1:34]have conflicting points of view on
[1:35]different things they can you know there
[1:37]can be cognitive dissonance on different
[1:39]subjects there's just all kinds of
[1:40]different angles to people I we're very
[1:42]complex people
[1:43]so um so when people do that to me like
[1:47]they'll comment on my channel and it
[1:50]just it's just rude it's usually
[1:52]rude
[1:54]um and they're they're they're spacing
[1:56]on a couple of minutes it's like you
[1:58]truly and the the comments always miss
[2:01]the mark because of that I mean they
[2:02]have draw a judgment that if they had
[2:05]kept watching if they had watched other
[2:07]videos they would have
[2:09]understood they're Comon just has no
[2:12]value not saying that about this person
[2:14]I'm talking about this is that I'm
[2:16]actually conflating subjects now but
[2:18]getting back to
[2:19]that I just want to acknowledge that
[2:22]this lifestyle can be hard for some
[2:24]people it's hard for me it is not a
[2:27]personal failing it's very important to
[2:28]acknowledge that this is not a personal
[2:30]failing if you struggle with this
[2:32]lifestyle there can be a lot of reasons
[2:33]for it for me I think it's just a
[2:36]misalignment I don't think I actually
[2:37]enjoy this lifestyle I think that I want
[2:39]what's in that picture back there I want
[2:42]a cabin in the woods that's what I want
[2:44]I want more space I want a bigger
[2:46]bathroom I want a bathtub I want a
[2:49]kitchen area where I can actually cook
[2:51]and do dishes and everything's a
[2:54]struggle you know for me in this thing I
[2:57]can't I can't just put my slide in in
[3:00]without having
[3:01]to take everything off the bed then then
[3:05]bring the slide and then put a bunch of
[3:07]stuff back on the bed platform um I
[3:10]can't like stuff's got to be moved
[3:11]around if I need to put reflecti on my
[3:14]windows because it's it's hot outside I
[3:17]have to take the screens off and find a
[3:19]place to put the screens when I'm done
[3:21]with that I have to put the screens back
[3:22]on find a place for the reflecti stuff
[3:25]gets moved around all the time you know
[3:26]it's just it's hell it's hard and and
[3:30]it's worth acknowledging that it's not a
[3:32]personal failing if you struggle just
[3:34]keep trying
[3:37]and you know if you decide it doesn't
[3:39]work for you there are always other
[3:41]options do not think that there is not a
[3:43]path forward for you because there
[3:45]always is you just have to keep working
[3:49]towards it